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Month: January 2018
In 2016 I decided it would be a good idea to try and go to two different universities while working. I literally had alarms on my phone telling me when I could nap during the day because I’d arrive home at midnight every day and then have to be up by five in the morning to start all over again. For a year I had the craziest hours, the worst possible diet, no time to exercise whatsoever other than the few days I was feeling strong enough to walk from class to work. I was treating my body and mind as if I was a robot, designed to work, study and eat.
When 2017 began I was absolutely exhausted, more insomniac than I’ve ever been, crying, depressed and I kept catching colds and feeling ill all the freaking time. Until one moment when I noticed every time I mentioned my current state to someone, they’d quip: “Of course you’re feeling awful, I don’t know how the hell you survived last year.” Friends, if you start hearing the exact same words from every single person you know, I say you should listen to them. I didn’t. And I also didn’t listen to my body, as many signs as it kept giving me that I was ready to break down. Needless to say, 2017 was a pretty rough year for me health wise, right?
So let’s see why I should have listened to my body and why sometimes slowing down and doing nothing is the complete opposite of being lazy.
1. Your body tells you every single thing you need to know.
Your falling hair, breaking nails, back and joint pain are not the Devil’s work. It is not karma biting you in the ass for being a bad person in a previous life. Well, it could be, but that’s probably only one of the reasons. I remember looking at myself in the mirror in 2016 and all I could see was how big the dark circles around my eyes were and how much weight I kept gaining. My hair would fall like crazy and I thought it was just normal, every day hair loss for someone with as much hair as I have (it is a lot). Those were all signs of a terrible nutrition and lack of sleep and rest and we can all agree I didn’t need to get to a point where I’d get in shock, or have a severe nervous breakdown to notice I was overworking myself if I had taken the small signs seriously, right? If you sleep eight hours one night and wake up feeling amazing the next day, listen to it – you need eight hours of sleep to be reinvigorate, that’s your needed sleep time. Pay attention to every small sign your body gives, even the good ones!
2. If you keep falling ill over and over again, something’s wrong.
I also wouldn’t stop getting sick in 2016 (and 2017). I’d be coming down with a flu every two weeks, I had constant headaches and muscle pain, always sneezing, getting rashes and even a horrible case of dandruff. Oversharing? Oh well.. I also found out I had a herniated disc on my lombar region and completely ignored the diagnosis. Smart, as always. For the longest time I thought it was just because I forgot to take Vitamin C tablets before breakfast. Needless to say, that was not the case. Getting constantly sick might be the biggest sign your body is giving that you’re treating it badly and while we may think colds and flu are okay and will go away soon, they mean your immune system is bugged, BAD, and that little man doesn’t take care of colds only, it is responsible for keeping every single possible illness away from you. If you kick it in the head too many times, occasionally something far worse will come along and your body won’t have the energy to defend itself. Colds, flu and allergic reactions will be the least of your problems.
3. Sometimes all we need is a little break.
I know society nowadays keeps flashing us with pictures of extremely fit people preaching exercise and healthy diets and blah blah blah. Listen to them – to a certain extent. Yes, a bad diet and the lack of exercise were pretty much my doom in 2016. But then in 2017 I thought I had to quit cold-turkey half the things I was eating and go to the gym five days a week (and then work out at home the other two days). That routine IS NOT FOR EVERY BODY. It definitely wasn’t for mine! I was still weak, still trying to heal, with a hurt back and extremely overweight. All that craziness did to me was make me worse and send me to the hospital two times last year with a cracked back, once with tonsillitis and once with a migraine so bad I thought I was having a stroke. I’m a fucking 24 years old, guys, this kind of shit should not be happening! So take breaks. I’ll repeat: TAKE FREAKING BREAKS. Sometimes when you go through a lot for a long period of time, all you need is one week of sleeping, chilling, doing nothing before you can start – SLOWLY – getting back on your feet and moving. Take breaks, guys. Take many breaks.
4. Your body will also tell you in a much lighter tone when it is time to take a break.
So you’ve taken your breaks, you’re starting to get back on your feet, building up an exercise routine. You started a new project, things are going great, you’re on fire! And then one day your back hurts a little bit. You ignore it, you’re on fire anyways. And the next day your back hurts again. You ignore it once more. DO NOT IGNORE IT THE THIRD TIME. Your body is telling you to give yourself a break, man. Look at how awesome your body is, it even tells you when to chill! If you don’t feel well or at least 80% ready to do something, don’t do it. Listen to your freaking body, weirdo. It will not set revenge upon you if you choose not to workout with a hurt back, or if you choose to stay home instead of going on an adventure when you’re sneezing like crazy or your head is pounding. It will thank you and love you and be much stronger the next day!
5. Sometimes you and your body are just not feeling it – and that’s okay!
I had pretty hectic days this week and couldn’t find the time to write a second weekly post for you guys. And then yesterday when I did have the time I didn’t want to write anything. And that was okay! I was exhausted, couldn’t focus, was struggling with some personal matters and just wanted to spend some quality time with my mother. So I respected my body and mind’s current state and also you guys by choosing not to write some shit ass post just for the sake of doing so and making a commitment to myself to write today, once I woke up rested and feeling better!
You are not being lazy when you choose to listen to your body, your mind and your heart and decide not to do something. You’re being lazy when you know you can do it, when you’re feeling well and you have absolutely no obstacles in front of you (and in these obstacles I include mental illness, yes, because sometimes your body is good and your mind is pure crap at the same time) and you still choose not to do something.
6. People will tell you you’re wrong – don’t listen to them, listen to yourself.
Like I said on item 3 above, every one has their own limits, different bodies, life backgrounds and differently functioning brains. My friend (and spiritual/life coach) Mari used to do crossfit six times a week, now she’s going only three times a week after her body demanded she slowed down for a while. My friend Julia used to run miles four to five times a week, now she does pilates at home. My brother plays basket ball two times a week. And I do yoga at least three times a week, sometimes four… Sometimes even five or seven. You see what I mean? Everyone knows what’s best for them, their bodies tell them when to move, when to stop, when to sleep. This whole post is about listening to your body and of course, sometimes your friends, but mostly your body. Why would Mari’s body know what’s best for mine? Why would my body know what’s best for Julia? Do not let others dictate your relationship with yourself and your body, ever, because they will not be the ones dealing with the stress and possible pain in the future.
7. Our bodies are amazing little cocoons for our souls.
If you find a good balance with it, if you work on your relationship with it, your little body will take the greatest care of you and tell you with clear words when something is not right or when something is absolutely perfect. No matter how big, small, tall or short, lean or round, your body rules! Be friends with it, take care of it. In this life it will be the only body you’ll have. Worship that little – or not so little – fucker!
So, you know… A little bit of silence can tell you great things. Take a deep breath now and listen to what your body is telling you.
And then come here and tell me what it was, deal?
Unless it’s a secret, I wouldn’t want to ruin your body’s trust in you.
Stay true, kitten, stay awesome.
Here I am, my friends, in the very first day of 2018, with a Full Moon entering Cancer (which means momma here is feeling POWERFUL) and also on the day of Zeus and Hera, king and queen of hospitality.
What does that mean, Jules?
It means I am about to welcome you into my very own corner in this huge world called “Le Internet”. Sure, maybe Zeus and Hera are not my favorite Greek deities (they definitely aren’t, we’ll talk about that in the future), but the concept of hospitality was engraved in the honor code of ancient Greeks and it is something I intend to embrace warmly here at CBC. So, as the title says, welcome to Cat, Books and Curls!
I’m sure there are many questions going through your mind right now. What does the full moon have to do with anything? Why the f*** is she talking about Olympic gods? Why cat and not cats? Etc, am I right? I promise we’ll get to that. One day. Eventually. Right now let’s start with the basics: WHO THE HELL IS JULIANA SERGIO?
If you’re not one of my close friends (yet) or family members (maybe in another life), none of those I’ve forced to
come here and celebrate my work, here I am on a nice, Instagram-provided elevator mirror selfie. You’re starting to understand now why ‘curls’, right? Okay, this picture is at least eight months old, but I promise the only thing that has changed is my phone. Oh, and those Ray Bans died two weeks ago, they got smashed in my purse. But yes, people, this is me. Twenty four years old, very Brazilian with an Italian twist. Cancer sun, Virgo rising, thank you very much. Plus sized, curvy, pale as a ghost. A girl living with Hashimoto’s and PCOs. Little old, 5’4” me.
This is the person that is promising to come here twice a week to share something about herself that she’s sure you’ll understand. This is me on my favorite outfit, yes, in a good hair day. But also a me that was leaving home with a fuckton of insecurities and that is exactly why I decided to create CBC. Because I’m normal. Because I go through a lot of shit and I know you all do too. And I grew tired of feeling alone in my struggles, as I’m sure you all have as well, so CBC is here simply as a place where we all can look around, listen to each other and realize we are not alone.
This here is also my cat, a two years old lilac Siamese named Amelia. Pretty much the love of my life. Some may know her as Amelia, Pitchu, Mélin. Or also Satan. And now you understand why cat.
I dare say Amelia is a co-writer in this catcave we’re creating and soon you’ll understand why. The important thing for you all to know right now is that Amelia was part of my recovery from depression and a BED (binge eating disorder). Both subjects I am going to approach here as much as needed for you all to feel supported and loved, and for people to start talking about it with more conscience instead of prejudice and walking on eggshells. So yes, CBC is algo going to tackle some hardships I’ve been through, some I’m still going to go through and some I’ll ignore and move on easily from.
Will I only be talking really difficult and emotional stuff? No, I’m also going to share all the things I love in life, the moments of self discovery and the revolution on self-esteem I plan to make in 2018. And I’m going to do it with a witchy twist. You didn’t think a cat lady like me would go through this without letting her true nature show, did you?
We’re going to talk about spirituality here and how it has helped me grow internally (and how present it has been in my pagan life since I was a kid), talk tarot and crystals and every mystic thing my beloved mother introduced into my life when I was but a curly haired baby. I’m going to share with you guys my spiritual journey, my emotional and personal healing process and we’re gonna cast some spells together, you know? Sage some rooms, get rid of bad juju and get more and more powerful everyday.
We’ll talk books, books and some books. And then some more. And how reading and writing saved me from the worst, darkest moments in my life. We’ll definitely talk mythology, that was pretty out there already. We’ll talk learning, and all that brain food that is out there, everywhere you go.
We’ll talk self-awareness, self-love, self-care and self-discovery. And how it is okay to have all these words that start with “self” in your vocabulary without having to fall into the worst of them, selfishness. We’ll talk health, about how is it living with Hashimoto’s disease, and PCOs, share experiences and learn from each other, deal? We’ll remind each other to take our meds, set up alarms every day to boost our own and our friends’ confidence.
And last, but most definitely not least, we’ll talk love. Not a hundred “how to” posts on dates and romantic love life. But simply love. Our relationships with ourselves, our friends, family, pets, with nature! Love as the essence of life, as something that is in everyone, everything, everywhere.
CBC is mine to myself, yes. But it is mine to you above all else. This is me reaching out to every single one of you that feels alone in your own struggles because I felt alone too and the Gods know how ill that made me.
You are not alone, babe. And you are so fucking awesome you have no idea!
Again, welcome to my virtual lair, my catcave. I receive you all here with open arms and I’m known to be a great hugger.
Stay true, stay awesome.